Two individuals unite hoping to celebrate life together. Their union could have come into being with dreams and aspirations for their future. To see them become a reality, they need to keep the spark of love forever lit. It is much easier to be head over heels in love, when it just blooms. As time passes by, it might not remain the same. There’s a requirement of conscious efforts to stay concerned and connected to each other. We have to see each other as flawless as during the honeymoon. At the beginning it’s all well and we don’t notice shortcomings. As bills and chores pile up, we could take each other for granted. When things get added to our baggage, they exhaust us to take care of our relationship. But we cannot let that happen at any cost. We have to be mindful of each other no matter how occupied we get. They could fight battles within themselves, that you don’t notice. Make sure you give them enough time and take care of their needs. If you feel you lack that old passion in your relationship try what I suggest. Make a secret promise to yourself, that for the next three months I’ll take care of my partner and be nice to him or her in every way possible and not expect anything in return from them. And if your partner is truly an amiable person, he/she would definitely treat you better without you having to express your feelings. You’ll see how most of your affairs fall into place. Become caring and demand less. You don’t have to force connection, you’ll just attract them towards you.
Remember why you committed yourself to this relationship. Do you remember back then the lovely gestures of your beloved amazed you and it brought a smile to your lips? Let it not fade away. You always have reasons to love each other. If there is no apparent abuse of any sort and if you are certain that both of you are sincere, learn to fight battles together. When a disagreement arises, it should be the disagreement vs both of you and not the disagreement between both of you. Don’t let your ego play around. When something goes wrong, be the first to apologise and reconcile. Remind yourself of his or her traits and qualities you love the most. That should serve to further cherish your bond. None of us are perfect. As human beings, we are all liable to make mistakes. It’s in our hands to forgive and forget for the sake of our relationship. Let the wound heal. Never hold grudges for too long and don’t pave way for a chaotic life. Don’t forget to keep the door for open communication wide open. Let each other know who you are, your purpose in life and the demons you fight within. So that both of you would have an idea how you should deal with your partner. This could make the rest of your life together much easier. Stop bottling things up within you. Take a pleasant approach to discuss whatever runs in your head.
Would you not want to keep that burning spirit of love for years to come? If so, you just have to relive the honeymoon once in a while. Plan out dates, events and activities that could rekindle your love life. Dress up and look adorable for each other. Take time out of your busy schedule and make things work. As a couple you have to decide what would excite you the most. Be it a romantic night out, a cosy candle night dinner at home or an adventurous hike. At least go get some ice cream together once in a while. It doesn’t mean you have to spend on them and ruin your life. Afford whatever is possible to entertain yourselves together. The entire purpose of it is to bring both of you closer and feel more connected.
Never let your career and kids become a source of distraction in your relationship. Yes, they are an enormous part of it. Keeping your relationship healthy is important. Make it a priority to give it equal attention. Don’t just be glued to work and children. Get a babysitter or someone to take care of your kids when you feel you need some time out together. When kids grow older show them, your relationship is a primary concern of the family. Don’t forget to make each other feel loved. Check on them often and surprise them with gifts, these simple acts of love could make all the difference.
Focus on the positive and let them grow. Don’t feed your negative emotions. Having a sound mind yourself will affect your relationship greatly. Focus on yourself and get your act together. This will immensely help your relationship. Try not to be a nagging partner, and not to take it to a level where it would irritate them. We need to know each other’s boundaries. It’s them whom we need the most by our side when we’re in trouble, but we should take responsibility for our own affairs. Grow a thick skin and prepare yourself to face challenges with courage. Just imagine you’re on your second date and you have some issues to be sorted out at your work, won’t you think twice about bothering your partner about it? Though you would be much more comfortable and used to each other over time, you still need to keep professional life away from your personal life. We share a life together hoping to be a source of peace to each other. How can we expect peace and tranquillity if problems are all that we have to deal with? It’s our personal duty to learn to handle unique roles in life successfully. These are not the only ways through which you can improve your relationship. The need to understand that we have to work on our relationship is what’s important. You and your partner together should relearn the art of being in a loving relationship. Aren’t all these matters if we need that honeymoon to last long throughout our lives?